My Self Help Solutions

Either you think you have it or you think someone you love has it and how do you tell if low self esteems. The signs of low self esteem can vary but there are some things that you can look for. I am just going to talk about the personal sign if you hear and see someone doing the following ask them how they feel about themselves.

You never try anything new because you just know you will fail. You are always saying in your self talk. I am a failure, I never do anything right.

You can never accept a compliment with out protesting and think to your self that you are unworthy.

You may feel that no one cares about you so why try to build friend ship or even a relationship.

You frequently ask others for assurance that you are realy Ok in their eyes.

You repress your  own opinion with the thought who cares I am nobody.

You may hide behind difference poses as the real you is not worth liking.

You feel that you are not worthy no matter what the task is. If you get an A on a test you tell your self you got lucky.

These are some of the signs of low self esteem. You may have them from child hood abuse or neglect. If you feel that these desribe please take a minute  and ask someone for help or work on your self with the material you can find here and on the web. I suffered for years and feel like I wasted 20 years of my life.

Self Esteem is basically how view yourself and the confidence that you have in your abilities. It also the way that you think that the world views you. If you think that you have no abilities or skills you will have low self-esteem.

You can have high self-esteem in 1 area in your life and have low self-esteem in another. You nay be great with your in skill like carpentry or a sport but when it comes to reading you feel that you have no skill in that area of your life.

So self-esteem comes down to the way you view yourself and your abilities there are many things that you can do to raise.

7   Self Esteem Tips

1. If your low self-esteem comes down to the way you think the world views you there is some good and bad news in the following statement. They dont think about you at all. They are more concerned with themselves and in fact are looking for your approval in most cases. This is really true with strangers.

If friends or family talk down to you and insult it is time for you to get new friends and move away from your family. Use either Self Talk to raise your self-esteem.

2. Stop comparing yours elf to other people. No one is perfect everyone sucks at some things and are better at others. Under stand that your unique and have your own skill sets.

3. Dont talk down to your self. Talk your self up. Point out to your self your strengths not your weakness.

4. Find things that you love doing and immerse your self in those activities.

5. Charity giving to others of your time and in some cases money will boost your self-esteem. Many time you will receive other  peoples gratitude which will helps alter your opinion of your self.

6. Take 1 of the area’s you hate about your self and create a plan of attack on it. I always suggest starting with something small and working on it. This will show your negative side that you can change.

7. Accept compliments with protesting. You think Oh No that’s not me. That is you and other people recognize your abilities. So take those compliments with grace.

Poor self-esteem can lead to you not living up to your abilities. If you accept that there is a creator would you believe that he would build a defective product. Use the self-esteem tips to help build a better you