I have talked about habits quite a bit and the reason is that it is at the center of being either success or failure. To having a good life and struggling. You now know that habits are actions that you have done so often you know do them subconsciously. You may no even remember doing them. I once lived at an apartment building for 4 years and then moved to another apartment 2 miles away. More than once when I was tired I would find myself in front of my old apartment after work. It took 90 days for me to break the old routine. Many time when I was headed to my new apartment I felt that I was headed the wrong way.
Habits are powerful force that you can harness your subconscious to help propel you to success. Now what kind of habits will help you.
Good Work Habits would be a good place to start. Show up to work on time and ready to go to work. Look for the duties that no one else wants and then offer to do them. Dont just go through the motions but work like you own the place. Ask your boss what skills or duties would you have to do to get promoted.
Financial Habits would be another great place to start. Instead of spending all you make why not put 10% away from each check for either future emergencies or for a nice treat. Study the stock market. Become frugal. Watch your money outgo. Every dollar saved is equal to about 1.50 in earnings based on your tax bracket. If you develop the habit of watching where your money goes you will have a better life style with no more work required.
Life Long Learning is a habit that can change your life. Setting 1 hour aside a day will allow you to gain new skills that will help you in your job or allow you you to get a new job or career. You can new skill sets that will allow you to change your life for the better.
If you could ask any successful person 1 of thier secrets I think that the abilty to change or develop hahabits would be at the top of thier list.

I can hear you saying,But I am not responsible it someone Else’s fault or the economy or your boss so how can you blame me. First of all I am not blaming you for anything. So why is is this a success secret?

Because if you take 100% owner ship of where you are in life you have the abilty to change your life. If you are waiting for the economy to get better or a new boss you have surrendered any chance of you changing your life.

But if you take ownership of your life it gives you the power to change your life style or job or income.

So will you take ownership of your life.

Here are some rules that I have for making them.

1. Avoid negatives. Dont say No don’t, wont. Instead keep it positive.

2. Keep it present tense. Saying I am becoming smarter is better than I will.

3. Read them 3 times  a day or more. Many times my affirmations is the 1 st step I take on a life change. I prepare the ground. I might read them when I shave,cook,ride the bus

4. Make sure there is emotion involved. Add emotion and it will make the affirmation more powerful.

5. I focus on mine on a weekly basis. I focus very hard on try to make the affirmation the center of a change and then I rotate a new one in.

6. Focus on how your life will change if the affirmation comes true.

A goal is  any out come that you want to happen in your life. It can be a possesstion type goal a carear goal a relationship goal. But a goal is not a vauge wish.

A wish might be I want more money in my life. So if you find a quarter your wish has been met.

A goal might be I want to make 100,000 dollars a year.

So whats the difference.

A wish is a vauge statement that cannot be measured. A goal is specific.

So lets get all the factors togother.

A goal is specific

A goal has a time frame. It should have a completion date. A wish is usually a someday type thing. Someday I will reach this

A goal is measurable.  A person that was not familiar with you can see  if you have reached your goal.

Lastly a goal is written down and you decide on a course of action to do it.

In another article I will describe that difference in time frames and why should have some from all the time frames available.

There is a quote from a Zen masters that says the same thing. Basically that quote is that a man cannot be successful when he tries but if he chooses to act can he succeed

I have covered this subject more than once and will probably cover it many time more.

If you act you get a result. Now this result not be what you are looking for but it will tell you if you are on the right track. The most painful words that I tell myself this days is I shoulda or if I woulda. I have missed many opportunities because I let my fears stop me when I was younger.

By acting,by just changing 1 thing in your life you change your future. It might be only a small change but if you stack 1 small change on top of another your life changes. So take the action.

If you have not seen it please go to my video section and watch the Micheal Jordan video again. This is how you succeed. By taking that shot he gave his team a chance to win. Many people fail to take that shot for themselves and they are stuck on the side lines. So please take those actions that you have written.

Don’t Try.  Do.

You never try anything new because you just know you will fail. You are always saying in your self talk. I am a failure, I never do anything right.

You can never accept a compliment with out protesting and think to your self that you are unworthy.

You may feel that no one cares about you so why try to build friend ship or even a relationship.

You frequently ask others for assurance that you are realy Ok in their eyes.

You repress your  own opinion with the thought who cares I am nobody.

You may hide behind difference poses as the real you is not worth liking.

You feel that you are not worthy no matter what the task is. If you get an A on a test you tell your self you got lucky.

These are some of the signs of low self esteem. You may have them from child hood abuse or neglect. If you feel that these desribe please take a minute  and ask someone for help or work on your self with the material you can find here and on the web. I suffered for years and feel like I wasted 20 years of my life.

One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.
Tony Robbins

My Take on IT

How many times have you been at work but you are thinking about something else. You have to learn to focus your attention 100% on what you’re doing. You have to be laser  sharp.

Another way people do not direct their focus correctly is that they time wasters. TV or  Gossip or idle chatter. How much more would accomplish if you focus on additional ways to make money or improve your job skills.

People become experts on how to play a TV game or what the newest celebrity  is doing. Instead focus on whats important in making your life move forward.

People also never decide to focus and a job skill or develop a new job skill they let life carry them where ever it wants.

A goal or outcome that you wish to have come into your life. It has  more than 1 step. What separate goals from wishes is that they are specific and they have a due date. You need  very clear about what you want.

So now we now what a goal is what types are there.

Well there are as many types as there are people but we can break them down into categories. They reflect the way we live.

The first type might be personal. You might wish to live in 1 city or a house. You might put sports goals here. To have a certain skill set. Anything that would change your personal life.

2nd might be work or career goals. To be CEO before your 40. To work in 1 job. To have a certain skill set. To be able to work 6 months of the year.

The third might be spiritual goals. You may wish to read the bible or other religious book. You might wish to set a goal of 15 minutes a day in prayer. It is anything that places you closer to your creator.

The fourth is financial. You may set goals to have a million dollars before you are 40 and be able to retire when you want.

As you can see goals can be set in any area of your life and the types of goals are only limited by what you want to bring into your life.

The first is your own self development that we talked about earlier. Self Change allows us to grow in all areas of our life. We gain skills ranging from job skills to coping skills.

Another area for personal development would be your health. Is any thing else more important. If you dont have your health in matters not how many toys you have, It does not matter where you live. For you will not enjoy any of it f your sick or on your death-bed.

Life Goodies or material possessions. Goals in this area may include your dream house or the perfect place to retire. This is not the main course but more like the spice of life.

Career goals are very important. You don’t want the current of the economy to carry you where it wants. You need to know what skills will advance your career and how and where to make them

Community. How do you want to take part in your community. Will you run for office or maybe sit on a board. Where does this fit into your life.

Relationships this  area covers not only your mate. But family and friends. In creating loving relationships we create bonds that carry us through personal tragedies and keep us grounded during the boom times.

These are the most important areas for personal development.  There are others which will discuss but these are the broad categories that most activities fall into.